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Breaking my perfectionist rules

I'm testing what it feels like to break one of my perfectionist rules today.

One of my unspoken rules rooted in perfectionism is “I should run through every work presentation as many times as possible before giving it.”

I’m leading a training today for several hundred women at Wells Fargo, and I’m really excited for the learnings that will come out of it. Instead of following my perfectionist rule and squeezing in as many dry runs as I possibly can, I’m:

→ Focusing on visualizing my attendees, the emotional experience I hope they’ll have, and the insights they’ll walk away with

→ Going on a quick run, which always loosens me up and helps me be more fresh and creative

→ Getting some extra snuggle time with my daughters, grounding me in what matters most

→ And I’m going over the few key points that I really want to land

My black and white thinking as a perfectionist may lead me to want to believe that if I don’t prepare endlessly, then that means I’m *unprepared* or I somehow don’t care.

But the truth is that I do care (deeply!), and that I’m preparing in different ways – in ways that will allow my participants to feel more connected with me, that will help me show up more creatively and authentically, and that will create openings for conversation more so than a perfectly polished delivery would.

What perfectionist rule can you challenge today?

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