Let's free ourselves from the belief that being perfect will bring us sustained happiness.

Let's free ourselves from the belief that being perfect will bring us sustained happiness.

When our goal is “perfect,” our primary motivator is to make no mistakes.

When we do achieve that perfect standard, we feel relief that we didn’t mess up. But relief is a poor man’s substitute for actual satisfaction.

And when we don’t feel that satisfaction we expected to feel by achieving "perfect," we set our sights on the next perfect goal, believing THAT next milestone is what will bring us the happiness we seek.

This is an endless, fruitless cycle. A cycle that leads to confusion, shame and fear.

When we free ourselves from this mistaken (and oh-so-common) belief, we can instead seek happiness in the places it actually flourishes: in relationship, in tuning into the present, in communing with a sense of higher power or deeper purpose, in replacing our fixation on the outcome with relishing the unexpected twists and turns of the journey we’re on.

I hope you’ll join me in an effort to leave behind beliefs that no longer bear fruit – finding lasting satisfaction in the places that do.